Modern dating can be very chaotic until you come across someone who’ll make you realise all the trouble was worth it. Dating apps give you access to millions of users looking to indulge in romantic encounters (or not). A stellar first impression is supremely critical in this virtual landscape.
However, starting a conversation with anyone is no walk in the park. The online dating ecosystem is quite cut-throat, and we’re sure you want to stand out from a pile of people sliding in with “Hi” and “sup”. Your fate hangs on how good or bad your opening line is. If you’re struggling to navigate conversation starters on dating apps, we’ve got you covered. These opening lines are guaranteed to get their attention and maybe a date.
Make a stellar first impression with these dating app openers
1. Personalisation is key
Take our word for it, nothing is more attractive than someone being curious to learn more about you and paying attention to the information you’ve listed. Use their interests as your entry point and take note of any quality that they’ve mentioned in their bio or any hobby that is evident from their photos. Their profile will also help you find if there’s any commonality between your interests. Here are a few examples:
“You’ve travelled loads! Where’s the best place you’ve been?”
“Looks like you love adventure sports. Any specific reason why you like it so much?”
“Hey, you’re not far from me! Have you ever tried a restaurant/bar/day out?”
“I saw you also like [hobby] and couldn’t not swipe right! How did you get into it?”
“Your book collection looks amazing. Which book would you suggest for a non-reader like me?”
“I, too, love BTS. My favourite is ‘Butter.’ What about you?”
“That’s an awesome sneaker collection. I wonder which one would be your favourite? I guess it’s the red one.”
2. Make them laugh with your subtlety
Make your matches chuckle at your witty-one liners, because who doesn’t enjoy a good laugh? Having a sense of humour works like magic on dating apps, however, even if your funny side isn’t that funny, knowing the right pickup lines is a quick fix.
When using opening lines, please avoid anything generic or too mainstream as it’s a huge put-off. You don’t want your match thinking that they’re only worth an old copy-pasted cliche. Check out some of the witty lines:
“I am a professional mood changer. If you ever feel low, shoot me a message, and I will turn your frown upside down.”
“I heard you like bad boys. You will be glad to know that I am bad at starting conversations.”
“If you lower your standards a tad bit, you might find me there waving out to you.”
“I’m using my last 2% battery to send you this message. If that’s not commitment, I don’t know what is.”
“If I had a nickel for every time I saw someone as beautiful as you, I’d still only have five cents.”
“Not to be too forward or anything, but I have a wedding coming up next month and I already RSVP’d for you. You’re having the salmon.”
“Listen, I’m not big on making the first move, so if you’re interested, shoot your shot and we’ll both pretend you approached me.”
3. Grab their attention with questions
Witty-one liners are definitely fun, however, if you want to move past that small talk, start being inquisitive. Asking questions is a great way to establish a powerful connection. Be it a hypothetical situation, any food/ show recommendation or a game of ‘would you rather’, there are multiple ways to pose interesting questions. Make your question game strong by drawing ideas from this list:
“Who would you rather be stuck in a lift with? (List two celebs)”
“What’s the worst date you’ve ever been on? Mine involved…”
“If I made you dinner, what’s a meal that’d make you fall in love with me?”
“What’s your most controversial opinion?”
“I make an amazing lasagna. What’s your brag-worthy signature dish?”
“What show are you marathon watching right now?”
“Don’t mention it to anyone, but I judge a person by their Netflix queue. So, what shows are on your to-watch list?”
“I’d tell you you’re gorgeous, but I’m sure you get that all the time. How about you describe yourself with a gif instead?”
“What’s your go-to karaoke song?”
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4. Be direct about your intentions
Each dating app has built its unique reputation over time and attracts a similar user base. While Tinder is best known for hookups, Bumble attracts those having a more sincere approach towards relationships. Meanwhile, Hinge comes across as Tinder’s elite cousin that offers more long-term, serious associations. So it’s pertinent to select an app that best suits your needs.
Make your intention transparent at the very beginning of the conversation by using an opening line that echoes it. Here are a few examples-
“I’m just here to have fun. Are you interested in a casual connection?”
“I just got a new dog. Want to come over and pet it?”
“I’m here for the weekend/week/month. Want to catch up?”
“You look like someone I’d like to get to know on a more personal level.”
Let’s hope these lines work well for your next virtual rendezvous!
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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
Answer: If you want to make your message stand out, try referencing something you specifically saw on their profile — their pet, or their vacation location. You could even start with a comment about fashion or pop culture to see whether you’re interested in the same types of brands or movies.
Answer: Pull inspiration from their profile. Open with a question · Play 'this or that'· Be playful ·